93
women will be raped today, writes Twinkle Khanna
I am sitting in the balcony, reading the papers. And there
I see it — An Uber cab
driver has raped a young woman in Delhi.
There
is an outrage about how unsafe Uber is, how they have to do a thorough check
before hiring and how people will now be apprehensive before getting into one
of their cabs.
This
is not just about how Uber should be more responsible (they clearly need to
make sure there are no such security lapses), this is about our men. There is a
disease running through our country and through our men. Every single day, you
read about rape.
Gujarat: A six-month baby has been raped
by a neighbour and is still lying in critical condition in the hospital.
Goa: Three boys raped a five year old.
Their ages? Nine, 12 and 15.
Raipur: A teenage girl was threatened and
raped several times over a period of eight months by three men.
Mumbai: A 14-year-old girl has been
repeatedly raped by her stepfather.
Nagpur: Five men abducted a school teacher in Nagpur and gang raped
her. They dressed up as police officers waylaid her and proceeded to
brutally rape her.
I
don’t understand this. I can’t unravel the back-story of this incident. How do
five men talk about this and plan this? Did they sit together in a room and
say, “We need sex. Let’s rape women? Let’s dress up as cops and do the
needful?” Is it socially acceptable to talk about this as a group? My mind is
reeling.
The moral police will have you
believing that a woman provokes this assault onto herself by the way she
dresses, the way she walks, the way she talks. Really? The three-year-old who
got raped and was then killed provoked her assailant? The 84-year-old
grandmother who got raped by a 30-year-old man was wearing a mini-skirt?
Why
are we hearing about this every day? Is it the fact that it’s being reported
more often and that’s why the huge numbers are coming to light? Or is it the
fact that all these men have phones and 3G and via that access to Internet porn
which is indirectly responsible for these disgusting acts?
And all the parents of these vile men should be asked a few
questions. Where did you go wrong in raising these boys? There have to be
signs. These boys cannot go from running in little shorts and playing
chor-police to shoving bamboos into women and destroying lives with absolute disregard to any
sort of humanity, without at some point revealing glimpses of their sick minds.
It
seems like there is nothing we can do to stop the rape cases that we hear
about, day in and day out. There is nothing we can do to protect our children
and ourselves. The only thing in our control is to make sure we report the
crimes and urge others to do the same.
I
know a Gujarati family where the cook repeatedly raped their 13-year-old
daughter. The conservative family, scared of the social repercussions, did not
report the crime. They did not even beat up the cook, just dismissed him as
they did not want to draw attention to the rape as it would (in their eyes)
bring shame to the family. A clear message was sent, not just to the assailant
but to everyone else around as well, ‘There is no punishment for this crime.’
That cook is still out there, working in another household and probably looking
for yet another opportunity to rape yet another girl as he now knows that he
can get away with it so easily.
There are laws against rape, but scores of men still do it.
The law is enforced but they still do it. We agitate and try to get the death penalty for acts
committed, but they still continue. The latest statistics from National Crime
Records Bureau state that 93 women are being raped daily in this country.
How
do we stop this? No one seems to have the answer. All we have are daughters in
our homes and a deep sense of despair.
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